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What is a Bad Date Sheet?

A bad date is someone who offers to pay for sex but is abusive or violent when we’re with them.

A Bad Date Sheet takes your reports of people whobeat, kidnapped, robbed, refused to wear condoms, were verbally disrespectful or abusive, refused to pay, forced any kind of sex acts not agreed to, sexually assaulted, or were violent in some way and puts your reports in a monthly booklet so you can get the word out about violent/abusive perpetrators and protect yourself.

What about violent police officers? Yes, we will take reports about law enforcement who verbally abuse, demand sex and refuse to pay, beat, detain to verbally, physically or sexually abuse, rob or take money, refuse to wear condoms, force any kind of sex acts not agreed to, sexually assault, or are violent in some way

What about pimps? Yes, we will take reports about pimps who verbally abuse, beat, kidnap or hold people hostage, rob or take money, refuse to wear condoms, force any kind of sex acts not agreed to, sexually assa…

Who can make the report?

Anyone who trades sex or sexual stuff for money, gifts, drugs, or survival needs

Outreach workers and other social service workers **please ask the person who experienced the violence for permission to send to us**

Witnesses to violence against people in the sex trade

Friends, family, and partners of people in the sex trade **please ask the person who experienced the violence for permission to send to us**

How to make a report

We want hear what happened to you in your own words. Your reports are anonymous and confidential. We don't share any identifying details you might share about you. You get to decide how much you want to tell us. Here are a few questions to think about:

When? What time of day was it? Do you remember the date or day of the week?

Where? Did you meet at their house – do you remember the address? Were you in a car – what it did look like, license plate numbers? Were you taken to another location?

Who? Was it a man, woman, trans person? What did they look like – hair, eyes, clothes, height, weight, tattoos? What was the name they used? Was there more than one person?

What happened? Tell us what happened in your own words. Can you repeat parts of the conversation?

About you? If you are ok with it, please tell us a little about you. Are you a woman, man, trans person? About what age are you? How would you describe your cultural/racial background? Are you visiting from another city? …

Who is a Bad Date Sheet for?

A Bad Date Sheet can be helpful for anyone involved in trading sex or sexual stuff for money, gifts, drugs or survival needs. You do not have to identify as a prostitute.

That includes couch surfing youth, exotic dancers, sex workers, adult entertainers, hustlers, AWOL youth, escorts, rent boys, call girls, people who are forced by pimps, webcam performers, porn models and actors/actresses, street workers, trafficked people, homeless and struggling adults, pro-Dom/mes, pro-subs, phone sex workers and more.

All ages, all cultural backgrounds, men, women, transgendered people, all sexual orientations - (str8, gay, lesbian, bisexual, not sure) all sides of town, if you live here or are just visiting, if you think of yourself as in sex trade or if you would never call it that, if you decide to do it or if you’re forced into it.

People get money from sex in many ways. We're not interested in labels - we're just interested in being helpful.

More questions to help make a report

Tell us what happened to you in your own words, as much as you can or feel comfortable telling us. Here are some suggestions to help you remember what happened and let you know what info would be helpful.


When? Do you remember the day, time or day of the week?


Where? Did you meet at their house or apartment? Do you remember the address or cross streets close by? Did you meet on a street – near which streets?

Were you in a car – what it did look like – a truck, minivan, taxi, police car, two-door, four-door? What color? Do you remember all or part of the license plate number? Was it clean or messy? Was there stuff broken on the car? Did the car have a child car seat?

Was it at a hotel room? Did you know them from the neighborhood or through a friend? Did you meet a bar, club or event? Did you meet through the internet? Were you taken to another location?


Who? A man, woman, trans person, not sure? How old do you think they are? Were they white, African-American, Hispanic/Latino, Asian/Paci…